Core Values

As a client-centered, holistic therapist, I use a range of therapeutic approaches. Over the years, I've discovered that some values are core to my own life and my work.  

Awareness 

To change, we need to see clearly. Hidden feelings and harmful thoughts run on autopilot within us. Before we know it, we're caught up in unwanted behaviors and moods - with no clue how we got there! In therapy, we learn how to honestly check in with our head, heart and body and to build clarity within ourselves.

 

For counsellors, awareness is key. I need to be honest with myself about my own thoughts and feelings so that my own stuff doesn't get in our way. I consult regularly with a clinical supervisor, a therapist, and colleagues to help see myself and my clients clearly. I also follow a meditation practice that helps me to see the good, the bad, and the human inside. 


 

Self-Acceptance

 

We can learn to accept our messy, imperfect humanity. Throughout our lives, we pick up all kinds of messages about who we should or shouldn't be. What would it be like to turn down the volume on the negative beliefs you hold about who you are? To compassionately accept yourself, warts and all?   

 

Learning to accept myself, with all of my many imperfections, is a work in progress! I have been lucky to learn from wise mentors along the way that we are all simply human. We are all struggling and doing our best with what we have. To compassionately accept my clients, wherever they are at, is at the heart of my work. 

 

Joy

 

Joy is what all this work is for. Joy isn't found in buying, achieving, or even in being happy all the time - even if that were possible! In counselling, we work towards a deeper joy that grows out of suffering, a joy that connects us to our loved ones, our community, nature, and our own vitality. 

 

In my own life, I have found suffering and joy are deeply connected. When I can open up to pain and loss, gratitude and contentment start to show up in my life. And I love to bring joy into the therapy room through humour, identifying strengths, and celebrating growth.  

 

Resilience

 

Life can be hard, but we can be strong. Whether we're going through loss, illness, trauma, or the challenge of getting through day-to-day stress, hard times can bring us to our knees. In these moments, we feel like we'll never recover. It can be so hard to see our own capacity to pull through. 

 

I've seen again and again in my work that we all have incredible strength and wisdom within us. With proper support and a safe space to slow down, we can take a breath, take stock, find our strength, and then move forward. 

 

Connection

 

Connection with others and healing go hand in hand. Too often, therapy focuses solely on the individual. We also need to consider our context in community. Who can we lean on? Who leans on us? What role is isolation playing in our struggles? What do we want to contribute to our world? 

 

If there's one thing that I've learned in my years of counselling, it's that we are profoundly social beings. Healing comes from feeling deeply heard and understood by others. This can start within our sessions, and then ripple out into relationships with partners, family, and the larger community. 

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